Everyone Cheats Then – Don’t They?
There are many clichés about when cheating is cheating – and when cheating is just…? Help me out here. If it’s not cheating, I’m not sure what it is. If couples don’t clearly define what cheating is to them, there may be some grey areas. Some people feel that in the following circumstances cheating isn’t really cheating – and it’s almost expected. You may agree or disagree, but here is what I think:
- The Revenge F%$@
This is a common excuse. Your partner cheated on you. You stayed together, and now the opportunity arises for you to sleep with someone. You don’t necessarily think it’s right, but you can’t help think “He slept with someone – why can’t I?” While I can see how this might make you feel better in the moment – when will it stop? If your partner has cheated on you and you have given him another chance, you should be working on rebuilding the relationship – not ‘getting even’ by sleeping with other people. Next thing you know he’ll be out there getting even with you for this one. It’s a vicious circle.
- They’ll Never Know
You meet a guy at the bar one night who is on holiday. He leaves tomorrow to go back to Greece, and he is dead sexy and asking you back to his hotel room. He’s on a flight tomorrow morning, so there is no way your man would ever find out – so it’s okay, right? Think what you like, but no matter how you sugar coat it – you’re still sleeping with another man – whether he knows or not.
- I Was on Vacation
Part of traveling is experiencing the people too, right? Of course – but you don’t necessarily have to experience how the local people have sex. If the roles were reversed, and you were at home while he was on vacation – would you be okay with him ‘experiencing the locals’?
- Girls Night Out!
A night out with the girls can often get wild – especially if your friends are all single. It’s easy to get caught up in the flirtatious vibe of the night clubs when you’re out with your gal pals. Light flirting is usually okay – depending how far you let it go. Let him buy you a drink. Let him tell you you’re beautiful. But if you can’t go home and tell your boyfriend about it – it might be cheating.